Aggressive Style Communication

Elements of the Aggressive Style

  1. Mottos and Beliefs
    • “Everyone should be like me.”
    • “I am never wrong.”
    • “I’ve got rights, but you don’t.”
  2. Communication Style
    • Close-minded
    • Poor listener
    • Has difficulty seeing the other person’s point of view
    • Interrupts
    • Monopolizing
  3. Characteristics
    • Achieves goals, often at others’ expense
    • Domineering, bullying
    • Patronizing
    • Condescending, sarcastic
  4. Behavior
    • Puts others down
    • Doesn’t ever think they are wrong
    • Bossy
    • Moves into people’s space, overpowers
    • Jumps on others, pushes people around
    • Know-it-all attitude
    • Doesn’t show appreciation
  5. Nonverbal Cues
    • Points, shakes finger
    • Frowns
    • Squints eyes critically
    • Glares
    • Stares
    • Rigid posture
    • Critical, loud, yelling tone of voice
    • Fast, clipped speech
  6. Verbal Cues
    • “You must (should, ought better).”
    • “Don’t ask why. Just do it.”
    • Verbal abuse
  7. Confrontation and Problem Solving
    • Must win arguments, threatens, attacks
    • Operates from win/lose position
  8. Feelings Felt
    • Anger
    • Hostility
    • Frustration
    • Impatience
  9. Effects
    • Provokes counter aggression, alienation from others, ill health
    • Wastes time and energy over supervising others
    • Pays high price in human relationships
    • Fosters resistance, defiance, sabotaging, striking back, forming alliances, lying, covering up
    • Forces compliance with resentment